Donald J. Trump–The Loner against The Republicans

October 12, 2016

By David Brooks

The point of town hall debates is that regular voters get to ask questions. In every town hall I’ve seen, the candidate turns to the voter, listens attentively and directs the answer at least partially back to that person.

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The candidates do that because it’s polite, because it looks good to be seen taking others seriously and because most of us instinctively want to make some connection with the people we are talking to.

Hillary Clinton, not exactly a paragon of intimacy, behaved in the normal manner on Sunday night. But Donald Trump did not. Trump treated his questioners as unrelatable automatons and delivered his answers to the void, even when he had the chance to seem sympathetic to an appealing young Islamic woman.

That underlines the essential loneliness of Donald Trump. Politics is an effort to make human connection, but Trump seems incapable of that. He is essentially adviser-less, friendless. His campaign team is made up of cold mercenaries at best and Roger Ailes at worst. His party treats him as a stench it can’t yet remove.

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He was a germophobe through most of his life and cut off contact with others, and now I just picture him alone in the middle of the night, tweeting out hatred.

Trump breaks his own world record for being appalling on a weekly basis, but as the campaign sinks to new low after new low, I find myself experiencing feelings of deep sadness and pity.

Imagine if you had to go through a single day without sharing kind little moments with strangers and friends.Imagine if you had to endure a single week in a hate-filled world, crowded with enemies of your own making, the object of disgust and derision.

You would be a twisted, tortured shrivel, too, and maybe you’d lash out and try to take cruel revenge on the universe. For Trump this is his whole life.

Trump continues to display the symptoms of narcissistic alexithymia, the inability to understand or describe the emotions in the self. Unable to know themselves, sufferers are unable to understand, relate or attach to others.

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To prove their own existence, they hunger for endless attention from outside. Lacking internal measures of their own worth, they rely on external but insecure criteria like wealth, beauty, fame and others’ submission.

In this way, Trump seems to be denied all the pleasures that go with friendship and cooperation. Women could be sources of love and affection, but in his disordered state he can only hate and demean them. His attempts at intimacy are gruesome parodies, lunging at women as if they were pieces of meat.

Most of us derive a warm satisfaction when we feel our lives are aligned with ultimate values. But Trump lives in an alternative, amoral Howard Stern universe where he cannot enjoy the sweetness that altruism and community service can occasionally bring.

Bullies only experience peace when they are cruel. Their blood pressure drops the moment they beat the kid on the playground.

Imagine you are Trump. You are trying to bluff your way through a debate. You’re running for an office you’re completely unqualified for. You are chasing some glimmer of validation that recedes ever further from view.

Your only rest comes when you are insulting somebody, when you are threatening to throw your opponent in jail, when you are looming over her menacingly like a mafioso thug on the precipice of a hit, when you are bellowing that she has “tremendous hate in her heart” when it is clear to everyone you are only projecting what is in your own.

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Trump’s emotional makeup means he can hit only a few notes: fury and aggression. In some ways, his debate performances look like primate dominance displays — filled with chest beating and looming growls. But at least primates have bands to connect with, whereas Trump is so alone, if a tree fell in his emotional forest, it would not make a sound.

It’s all so pathetic. One of Trump’s conservative critics, Erick Erickson, published a moving essay called “If I Die Before You Wake… .” Erickson has been the object of vicious assaults by Trump supporters. He and his wife are both facing serious health ailments and may pass before their children are grown. Yet as the essay makes clear, both are living lives of love, faith, devotion and service. Both have an ultimate confidence in the goodness of creation and their grace-filled place in it.

You may share that faith or not, but Erickson is living an attached life — emotionally, spiritually, morally and communally. Donald Trump’s life, by contrast, looks superficially successful and profoundly miserable. None of us would want to live in the howling wilderness of his own solitude, no matter how thick the gilding.

On November 9, the day after Trump loses, there won’t be solidarity and howls of outrage. Everyone will just walk away.


9 thoughts on “Donald J. Trump–The Loner against The Republicans

  1. “On November 9, the day after Trump loses, there won’t be solidarity and howls of outrage. Everyone will just walk away.”

    Way worse than that, is that bits and pieces of Trump’s toupee will be shoved into each and everyone of his die-hard fans orifices. There it will remain until some GOP veteran incinerates it with a M9 Flamethrower.

    The world cannot afford to have a Narcissistic-Sociopathic POTUS.
    USA cannot afford further descent into abysmal redneck Idiocy and follow shallow, puerile politicians.. This bloke isn’t even remotely lovably eccentric – he behaves like an evil drunk uncle who sells all his family’s jewels and then some..

    When Obama was first elected over McCain, i predicted a whiter than white WASP presidency. Was i wrong?

    For Hillary, i predict a more inclusive America within – but a tougher foreign policy without. Xi Pu Tin better suck their thumbs ‘cuz Hillary will be tougher than Obama. She ain’t no trembling banana tree but more like a moth eaten carpet used to douse spontaneous human combustion – like those Daesh/al-Qaeda types.

    Gun control, health insurance. policing and education, Madam Prez. As for the environment go back to clean-er natural gas and new generation coal plants, besides further development of renewable energy.

    For the badlands and rust belt, transfer them to PRC and Russia. Reboot manufacturing with robotics and retrain the whole generation of impulsive rent-seekers – with a whip if need be. Highly technically skilled workforce, unlike the inbred morons that Trump wants to breed..

    See.., simple ya? Any questions, kindly refer to our friendly Layu-sian, katasyang

  2. @clf on red neck, unfortunately, underlying sentiment has already gone beyond Trump.
    Did you pick up this random news #thisis2016 Twitter feed on how things are even in New York. Sign of the time. Tough days ahead. It would be tough to figure where Hillary stands on a lot of issues. After all, she has been willing to do a lot to stay in power. – layusian.

  3. Btw, i have a simple request, Mdm Prez, could you please ask NASA to hurry up their plans to land some astronauts on Mars, before we croak?

    Why? ‘Cuz Edgar Rice Burroughs says so. Remember him? He was my first sci-fi visionary and John Carter of Mars remained my quintessential hero:

    He also wrote Tarzan of the Apes – not Trump, the Apeman.

  4. For Malaysians, US presidential election is to be enjoyed like watching a sport, since almost all Malaysians cannot vote for their candidates. Sport with showing only one side such as those from NYT is exceedingly boring – anyone want to watch soccer game in TV when you can see only one team playing while the producer erases the opposing team through image-processing technology?

    Here you go from the other side and enjoy them:

    In this blog, many readers are lamenting why are we still have Mr. Najib Razak as our prime minister. Let’s face it, Malaysians have not found a democratic way to remove head of executive; Americans, since the time of early days of the republic, have used words, often vicious ones, to remove leaders. Words, uncensored ones, will find ways to approximate truth.

    Here is comment by an average American:
    How many Democrat Socialists does it take to keep the Queen of Deceit out of prison?
    Answer:. The DOJ, the FBI, tons of Immunity deals, lots of I don’t recalls, lots of pleading the fifth, and one White House and the resident community organizer!
    And she’s still only 2 points ahead after 3/4 of a billion dollars!

    Words, along with its institutions, are ways for Americans to vet leaders. How are Malaysians vetting our leaders?

  5. C.L. Familiaris Trump adores only 1 thing: WOMEN that he can treat like toys.
    What’s immoral about that. There are lot of us who are not prepared to express our views about women. They are beautiful people, but some of them are like Lady Macbeth, Grace Mugabe, Susan Mubarak and our very own Rosmah Mansor.–Din Merican

  6. Hi Din, Not even Trump (even with his scrotum in his brain) will want to come near our dear Roastie. If he does that, that will be IMMORAL!

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