Singapore redefines braggadocio
December 18, 2010
Malaysia-Singapore Relations: Singapore redefines braggadocio
by Tunku A. Aziz
“To view them (Singapore) through rose-tinted spectacles as is our wont would distort even further a relationship that has never been known for its convergence of views on even the most pedestrian of issues. Rather, it has always had all the makings and attributes of a potentially protracted and acrimonious future”.–Tunku A. Aziz
Four years ago, on October 18, 2006, I wrote an opinion piece from my 30th-floor office in the UN Secretariat, New York, for the New Sunday Times.
The title, “Singapore is simply a neighbour too far”, I thought fairly described my assessment of the state of our relations with neighbouring Singapore.
It upset a great many Singaporeans; it also made many realise that “what’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.”
A Singaporean behaves too much like an insecure lover, forever seeking assurance that she is the fairest of them all and that she is much admired and loved. The insatiable craving for praise and adoration would, in normal circumstances, point to a serious flaw in the national character.
This much I remember from the child psychology lectures I attended in college all those long years ago. How else can you explain their supercilious behaviour towards us, the Japanese and Indians, all falling into the category of “stupid?”
Singapore is not an unknown quantity to us in Malaysia. In a sense it is of us, but not part of us. Forget the so-called historical ties that are supposed to underpin our relations because they amount to nothing in practice.
To view them through rose-tinted spectacles as is our wont would distort even further a relationship that has never been known for its convergence of views on even the most pedestrian of issues. Rather, it has always had all the makings and attributes of a potentially protracted and acrimonious future.
Singapore has no time for sentiments; emotion is anathema to its national make-up. So, do not use that tack because it simply will not wash with it. Singapore is brutally clinical and rarely takes prisoners in any engagement with it.
Being small is not always easy, especially when you are trying to flex your muscles and punch above your weight. To be constantly reminded that you are nothing more than a little red dot on the face of the earth as President B.J. Habibie of Indonesia once did, somewhat insensitively, must touch some raw nerves, especially for a country that can justifiably claim a string of successes on so many fronts.
Now, even the Minister Mentor has doubts if his creation is really a country. For a “country” that has yet to establish an identity, Singapore is overbearingly obnoxious.
In our dealings with Singapore, we must never take it at face value. Let us disabuse ourselves quickly of the notion that sentiments and goodwill will cut any ice with it. We have to adopt an equally cold, clinical and legalistic approach, as it always does.
Think how often we have ended up drawing the proverbial short straw in our negotiations
with Singapore? The most celebrated was undoubtedly the MSA (Malaysia-Singapore Airline) divorce from which we came away with barely the shirt on the back. Singapore has always made it clear that it has no time for the sort of sentimental nonsense we wallow in, and operates simply on the basis of exacting maximum advantage, the pound of flesh, it can wangle out of any deal, no matter what.
Based on past experience with it, and in order to avoid unnecessary unpleasantness, such as being accused of bullying a small neighbour and of other unfair and malevolent behaviour, we should, as far as possible, leave Singapore to revel alone in its glorious splendour. In short, it is a neighbour too far, with apologies to “A Bridge Too Far”.
It has become apparent that it is simply not worth the effort to cultivate this uncultivable bad mouthing neighbour of ours. You cannot ever be right with it because it is never wrong. Winning some and losing some is not a thing that sits well with it. Winners take all, much like Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamad, is a strategy that appears to be well entrenched and suited to its national psyche.
Our relations with a neighbour such as Singapore, with its propensity for, and unseemly preoccupation with, scoring a debating point or two at every turn, must be circumscribed by the most formal and correct behaviour on our part.
While it is clear that we cannot avoid Singapore altogether as it is a neighbour after all, we should lead separate lives, taking nothing from it that is not ours, and, in turn, give it nothing such as the KTM land that is not its due.
With a neighbour that has developed bad mouthing into a fine art form, its foreign minister has the temerity to tell us not to take their condemnation of all things Malaysian out of context. Pray, what exactly is the context, Mr Yeo?
Now that Najib the peddler of durian diplomacy knows what his admirers across the narrow sluggish waterway really think of him, a view no doubt shared by many in his own backyard, I wonder what other great plans he has in mind to develop with Singapore. They have even implied that he is connected with a deed most foul. And what is more, he is dim witted in their estimation. I do not necessarily disagree with them on this score. Who says there is no freedom of speech in Singapore?
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I have been a friend of Singapore over many years and have a very good friends there who I met when I was working for Sime Darby Singapore from 1988-1991. I take pride in the fact that I know a little bit about how they operate.
Yes, they are not a bunch of sentimentalists; if they were, they would not be what they are today. They are very competent, thorough and realistic: they stand up Singapore and get their job done very well. You have to take them seriously and prepare yourself thoroughly before you meet them at the negotiating table.
They will play golf with you, they will party with you but don’t misunderstand their gestures. At the end of the day when they will get what is best for Singapore. This means that they know their bottom line and will work hard to get it, giving away as little as possible. They have no personal agendas.
I respect them for their thoroughness and meticulous attention to detail, but their perceived arrogance is something else. When I lived and worked among them, I learned to accept that despite our common historical roots, they are different from us as they are students of the Lee Kuan Yew School of realpolitik and ardent practitioners of LKY’s realist diplomacy. –Din Merican
dinobeano - December 18, 2010 at 12:39 pm
Excellent YM Tunku,excellent. Finally we need to say it like it is. Better we M’sians finally understand that we need to treat some countries as clinically as they see us.
I echo YM Tunku’s sentiment, Yes, “pray tell us what exactly is the context?” This is a sliver lining. We now know how we need to deal with neighbours of such “calibre”. It is akin to those who live next door to us in our own street and have a view that they are more superior than us, then we treat them accordingly , with civility and nothing else.
For,”It has become apparent that it is simply not worth the effort to cultivate this uncultivable bad mouthing neighbour of ours. You cannot ever be right with it because it is never wrong.”
Well said, Tunku, well said.Even though our leaders have no clue we the people have.
Kathy - December 18, 2010 at 1:55 pm
Ancient history aside and no matter how Singapore or the whole world may perceived it , everything there is of the ‘ little red dot ‘ evolve around LKY . Lee is Singapore’s demi- god who had figuratively speaking descended from the heavens taking human form and unlike the Messiah , have since remain with his people to this very day which according to human assessment of a mortals life span is a feat in itself.
Now , whenever Lee and Singapore comes in mind , the phrase “No man is an island” definitely deserves reconsideration.
How Singaporeans behave in their endevours to me is secondary but the fundamental fact of their progress is paramount and should serve as a lesson to all!!
danildaud - December 18, 2010 at 2:25 pm
danildaud, better relations still possible post Mahathir and LKY then and Tunku Aziz is unduly pessimistic,I think. It is learning from the past and then building partnership based on mutual respect and interest. Go win-win.–Din Merican
dinobeano - December 18, 2010 at 3:05 pm
Not easy to define a relationship made unnecessarily complex by views like those expressed in this piece. Part of the problem is that the “little red dot” has, against all odds succeeded brilliantly and we, with our vast possibilities are back to where we were fifty years ago. Given such a scenario, hang ups are to be expected.
Isa Manteqi - December 18, 2010 at 3:28 pm
Well danil, Harry’s favourite contemplative yogic chant is “maranatha” which means “O Lord Come!”. This is a reflection of his ability to come hither and tither.., whether anyone likes it or not.
The Ugly Singaporean is very real and lacks emotionalism and compassion. It is not just the Kiasu and Kiasi-ness that is so much in their psyche – it is the brash arrogance that will be their unmaking.
In China (PRC) they are considered a nuisance and in certain countries within Asean, they are regarded as slave masters – even in religious instituions. They know it all, and they are masters of their own red-dot universe.
I do not see anything ‘empowering’ about them and respect they have none – except to their worldly authority. They have no redeeming graces.
Having said this, i must admit, my relatives ‘down’ there are also in this mould. They cannot partake of sambal petai or cincalok because it is considered food of the aborigines or ‘sakai’ as they call it. And this is only in gastronomic terms, whatmore diplomacy.
Menyalak-er - December 18, 2010 at 3:43 pm
I think the Tunku is too overly emotional. Don’t tell me all in the Wikileaks is unexpected revelation. As if we only have favourable comments about our neighbour.
In our dealings with them just negotiate for the best deal for ourselves just as they will for themselves. And it can still be a win-win for all!
Thomas - December 18, 2010 at 4:15 pm
I have a malay friend here who is married to a Singaporean and her family in S’pore looks down on the malay husband and she is no longer part of the family as he is “malay” and therefore beneath her.Yet he is an angel always helping others no matter what their background is.He is just not wealthy .
Overly sensitive or not, ( I guessed as much some would say that) enough is enough . We need to be clinical, and legalistic with the neighbours . They do not know of anything else. Overly sensitive? Sp be it. It cannot be that we are always wrong as M’sians and they are always right can it?
Why even at home we would review our position vis a vis neighbours and friend or family who are not treating us well. So how is this any different.
I have had S’porean neighbours here who do not partake in anything else but close all doors and windows to anyone else and move about as if no on exists around them. It IS a reflection of their national failure for people do not care to remember how wealthy one is but how good we treated another when we have passed.
It is a serious flaw in character.
Kathy - December 18, 2010 at 4:31 pm
The Singaporeans Technocrats do their “homework” and due diligence before each encounter and when meet with our Malaysian’s counterpart…of course the Malysians get “hammered” because
01.our politicians come not to negotiate for Malaysia but also for themselves.
02.their “confidential” files on these “politician” will have exposed them as “flawed & tainted” and therefore “easy meat”…feed their cravings & greed as long as Singapore reach their “goals”.
Isn’t their “assessment” correct…just heard in BBC that the “madmen” of North Korea is going to spew Nuclear…don’t be Wimps…take in on the Chin and move on…because that’s similar to how Meritocracy works…the fittest survive and that’s why Malaysia is wallowing in Mediocrcrity with our half
fairplay - December 18, 2010 at 4:49 pm
continued..
is wallowing in Mediocrity with our half baked Politicians.
By the way…the phrase..”No Man is an Island”…I prefer…” We are all Islands but in a Common Ocean.”
fairplay - December 18, 2010 at 4:53 pm
We are not talking only in terms of weakth here. We are talking in terms of when one is wealthy does one then have the right to be an idiot?
Kathy - December 18, 2010 at 5:07 pm
There are students of history who credit the Mongolians for frocing the Chinese to build the Great Wall of China. I wonder if students of history will credit Malaysia for forcing LKY to take his country from a Percapita Income of S$400.00 in 1966 to S$44,000.00 today.
Whatever we say about Singapore they had their eyes on the ball while we had misplaced ours.
thumblogic - December 18, 2010 at 5:13 pm
Do I see a slight sense of envy in one or two of the responses???
Isa Manteqi - December 18, 2010 at 5:41 pm
When one wants a solid economic future for the people and a future based on solid foundations of transparent governance and Independent Judiciary, the Rule of Law and Leaders that are respected world wide , does that mean also that one has to be arrogant and rude with others about it?Or does the phrase with privelege comes responsibility , come to mind. The higher one is up the ladder of success the more humble one must be. It is not in their psyche. It has always been , We, the S’poreans versus the M’sians hasnt it. Always. We the S’poreans are more superiior because we are wealthy. Is that the superioirty that one wants for the nation in itself and of itself. Doesnt being wealthy encompass all and money is one part. I can almost hear the cyncism of others reading my comment . So be it.
Success of a nation is not only money, but Wisdom. Wisdom in how one treats others, Wisdom in reflection of ones self at every moment, wisdom in knowing that others who are struggling today may one day be the one who will succeed, wisdom in the treatment of those others who we see as failures.If what happened to LKY has not taught him the wisdom of the journey he went through then I do not see s’pore as successful . I never have. I have only contempt for thsoe who think that success is only measured by money.
Do we really want an income of S$44,000.00 to day and nothing else for the country.
So now we are poor with no values but we would like to be rich with no values.
Kathy - December 18, 2010 at 6:04 pm
It is becasue of no values that M’sian leaders are ruling us with no accountability. It is becasue of no values but money that S’poreans are arrogant and do not see beyond their noses.
One country is corrupt with no values and the other, their neighbour is successful with no values.
Kathy - December 18, 2010 at 6:15 pm
how right you are kathy.
veyellah dumale - December 18, 2010 at 6:28 pm
Kathy, a Singaporean in making.
vic - December 18, 2010 at 7:01 pm
” one country is corrupt with no values and the other, their neighbour is successful with no values ” – Kathy.
How accurate ! Both sides are ” corrupt ” in their different ways :
On the part of Malaysians, generally, with plenty of national wealth & tangible assets, the lower-rung masses felt too secure, and allowed the top powerfully few to become corrupt through sheer complacency & indolence !
On the other side, Singapore with virtually no assets or wealth, except their “brains”, became too INSECURE in their hype akin to the Israel’s ” Extreme Psychological Insecurity Syndrome ” (EPICS), had no other way to go except being subtlely and coldly ” BRUTAL ” in every way of their dealings just about everything relating to human affairs !
So what’s the big deal ? The Law of Survival of the Fittest applies, that’s the deal ! When it deals with its neighbours, that is.
Can Malaysia toughen up ?
Abnizar7 - December 18, 2010 at 7:49 pm
I can still remember a classmate who having spent a year in New Zealand on a Colombo Plan scholarship in the late ’60s had allowed his hair to grow to shoulder length (perhaps because he could not afford a haircut) was made to take the Hobson’s choice of a free haircut upon arrival at Changi Airport or a one-way ticket out because their leaders dressed in the ubiquitous white uniform, in starched white shirts were paranoid. Their fixation was not with any imaginary enemy that will have to cross the Causeway to get to the island but the pot smoking, weed loving and sex crazed visitors to their island by air. Anybody arriving by air required the closest of scrutiny.
Just as speech required the highest level of scrutiny – speech is here used as a generic term to include assembly and association. Every Singaporean I met overseas had nasty words to say about their leaders wanting to regulate everything from speech to behavior to sexual orientation and the way you have sex with your neighbor’s wife.
Their leaders are a homophobic lot. Gone are the days when visitors to the island could seek comfort in the arms of men passing themselves as women in the dark shadows of a street named after Najib’s ancestors. Yes. That would be Bugis Street popular to sailors at first, who have been at sea too long and could no longer differentiate women from men. How could they? Didn’t they give us the mermaids? The prize for capturing one of these half fish half woman which is US1.0 million offered by the good townspeople of Kiryat Yam in Israel is still unclaimed.
Their leaders say they want to give the island a squeaky clean image. They don’t want to see gums stuck in any doorway of any train nor rubbers being dispensed from vending machines at street corners like you find in Tokyo, and then having to sweep their roads to get rid of the litter afterward. They say they are not into job creation. The same thing some Republicans are saying to their leaders. That is a job for other Americans to do.
Control freak Singapore leaders have been unable to stop Singapore from being what it is today I.e. the Gay Capital of Asia. Or for that matter, from being the first base the legendary ‘little red dragons’ from Shanghai would touch down before making their way to Muslim Malaysia. You may be able to regulate speech, close down my favorite satirical and humor website talkingcock.com but you cannot really regulate conduct – certainly not private conduct.
Mr Bean - December 18, 2010 at 8:40 pm
Do I see a slight sense of envy in one or two of the responses??? Isa Manteqi
No. It’s more like pity.
Although individuals don’t count as a whole – imagine sitting next to an ugly MF’ing middle aged paunchy Chinapek Singaporean who’s bitching on and on about how Malaysians especially the Malays are corrupt, stupid and lackadaisical. Mind you, he was not interested whether i was Malaysian, but to him anyone who could sit in Business Class next to him for 7+ hours of flight must be smart enough not to argue with him! For people like these, one word is inadequate – so i told him to stuff it and take his c*** for a walk.. and never step into MY country. Emotion, you say?
Menyalak-er - December 18, 2010 at 8:43 pm
Kathy@6:04PM,
I agree with all what you have said with one caveat. To answer your question, ” Do we want an income of S$ 44,000.00 a year today and nothing else for the country?” That question should be only asked after you have repeat after you have a Percapita Income of S$ 44,000.00 and not before that.
thumblogic - December 18, 2010 at 9:10 pm
Bragaddacio connotes good. The apt word is Kiasu. Always want to win.
Can’t help it because of the Napoleonic complex. So small, so must act big to be looked upon highly.
A listening ear for the US and Israel’s best pal, as Wikileaks have proven.
With a neghbour like Singapore, who needs enemies.
Brunei is the only one neighbour whom we can regard as a faithful friend.
Pak Abu - December 18, 2010 at 10:40 pm
Do they monitor blog comments in Singapore and categorise you. Probably.
Happy to stay in Malaysia and earn 4,000 pa rather than 44,000 pa in the Litte Red Dot.
Joe A - December 19, 2010 at 12:51 am
Ditto,John A.
Pak Abu - December 19, 2010 at 8:27 am
thumblogic @ 9.10pm
Well I have a suggestion. Why dont we simultaneously concentrate on both issues of wealth creation, Human Rights and Ethics all at once. Since neither M’sia’s condition or S’pore’s condition works the one solution is to inculcate Human Rights and ethics into the Public service areas for humanity of outcomes whilst pursuing wealth creation goals which eradicates poverty. We all know poverty costs too much and to eradicate poverty is a far wiser move. So whilst creating wealth, we simultaneously concentrate of teaching public office holders such as Police, Government officers and those who carry out public duty by virtue of legislation, Human Rights and Ethics. Hopefully when taught at all levels of public office this will become second nature and the wiser choice of wealth creation will not overlook the people’s need to live better as well.
Kathy - December 19, 2010 at 12:17 pm
(1) Our relations with a neighbour such as Singapore, with its propensity for, and unseemly preoccupation with, scoring a debating point or two at every turn, must be circumscribed by the most formal and correct behaviour on our part.
A platitude?
(2) . . . we should lead separate lives, taking nothing from it that is not ours, and, in turn, give it nothing such as the KTM land that is not its due. . . .
These lives are entwined with Malaysia being the guiding force. Singapore will be re-assimilated by GE14 and PAP no more. Your words that appear to fette continuing this dual state of what should be a single nation and a microstate, makes me wonder if the state of seperatedness somehow benefits anyone? I will say no more Tunku. But correct if my suspicions are wrong. There is already one prominent who has already sold Malaysia short where Singapore is concerned, by treating it as an equal sovereign nation which it is definitely NOT.
(3) A Singaporean behaves too much like an insecure lover, forever seeking assurance that she is the fairest of them all and that she is much admired and loved. The insatiable craving for praise and adoration would, in normal circumstances, point to a serious flaw in the national character.
Tell me what you know if anything. Your sources seem so wide or everyone so well connected, it is shocking and unfair. Will privacy be ever restored as a right to any so compromised?
AgreeToDisagree - December 19, 2010 at 9:16 pm
Earn 40,000 Dollars right here? I know one way this can happen. Lease our country for 200 years to our neighbour – and within a generation Malaysians will be the wealthiest people in Asia.
But jokes aside, why don’t we all grow up just a little?
This whole episode started with a few “leaked” bits of info that apparently contain disparaging remarks about us. Does anyone really believe that similar views have NEVER been expressed the other way?
It is too early to say who the real beneficiaries of the Wikileaks are but the media are having a rip-roaring time…
Isa Manteqi - December 19, 2010 at 10:41 pm